1. drop the intention to have pleasures ( pleasure is attached to ego, if pleasure is not satisfied, it makes you misserable)
2. reduce ego by increasing awareness ( awareness means always being known of whats right and good which keeps ego away and as ego is the very cause of misery, it keeps misery away.)
what to keep in mind.
1. if a persons judgements towards you is not good or he/she doesn’t regard you a respectable person, then he/she will behave in a way that will hurt you. They might laugh if some one says bad about you. They will say bad about you. At your small mistake, they will dictate you, they will react angrily. They Blame you.
2. people can make judgments at anything like status, appearance, So you don’t have to start thinking that something is wrong with you. Ignorance can make a person develop ego over useless things like status, appearance which is not at all important for good life. Wrong is with the people and not you