Parth Choksi

the secret to good relationship lies in to surrender yourself to the ego of your partner. Not hard to do but ego of your partner will instantly dissolve and the person will instantly accept you and start thinking for your good and even regret about saying something harsh. This is how love will blossom. The best way is the keep quite and not speak back when some egoistically attacks, criticize, fights. The end result will be that the person will change his thoughts on you and start loving you. ego is all about winning, so once you let the ego of your partner win, ego will dissolve and love will blossom. This is what my father do when i blame, find mistakes of my father and when he keeps quite, ego changes into love.

February 4, 2011
ego seems to protect you but ego in extreme can be your biggest enemy

February 3, 2011
2 steps to be happy

1. drop the intention to have pleasures ( pleasure is attached to ego, if pleasure is not satisfied, it makes you misserable)

2. reduce ego by increasing awareness ( awareness means always being known of whats right and good which keeps ego away and as ego is the very cause of misery, it keeps misery away.)

February 3, 2011
You cannot control or dictate persons judgements towards you. Judgements are made by most as it is a natural tendency of an ego which makes them think yourself to be better or less than them. So if someones judgement towards yourself has built up to be bad towards you, their behavour towards you will not be of a kind. So by argueing or fighting back you cannot change the judgments in their mind. even if you fight back, it will be there and again their behavour will not be good. So if someones behaves the way it hurts you, fighting will not change anything. At such times be glad that you came to know about what does that person thinks about you and be aware of the fact and dont waste any of your time and energy towards such person in future.

what to keep in mind.

1. if a persons judgements towards you is not good or he/she doesn’t regard you a respectable person, then he/she will behave in a way that will hurt you. They might laugh if some one says bad about you. They will say bad about you. At your small mistake, they will dictate you, they will react angrily. They Blame you.

2. people can make judgments at anything like status, appearance, So you don’t have to start thinking that something is wrong with you. Ignorance can make a person develop ego over useless things like status, appearance which is not at all important for good life. Wrong is with the people and not you

January 3, 2011